I have got it! The latest Harry Potter Installment! I have been avoiding the news, internet sites, and conversations that might ruin this final foray into the world of Hogworts, Muggles, enchantments and spells. If I didn’t have a little boy to take care of I would insert a catheter, hook myself up to an IV and lock myself in my room to read. However I do have a little guy, one who is sharking around my legs as I write this (it is bottle time).
Instead, I will read it in installments, minutes stolen during naptime, between loads of laundry and supper preparations. Anyone want a baby for a few days? Ok, 24 hours, that is all I would need. Anyone?
Monday, July 30, 2007
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Weddings and Funerals
Weddings and Funerals. The two biggies. All too often these two signposts mark a time in my life when I hop on a plane to be with family. This time it was my Grammy’s funeral and as much as I love being here, it has been difficult. It hurts me to say goodbye, but it hurts more to watch my grandfather try to mend his broken heart. She was the matriarch who kept the family grounded, the sun around which we all revolved, the love of my Granddad’s life. But Grandma was in a lot of pain, and I would not have her back to see her suffer again. Not just so she could ease our pain.
I thought I was done blogging about this, I logged in with another topic pretty well flushed out, but I couldn’t stick with it. This is the direction that I still seem to be pulled in. I was looking at our itinerary for our return trip back to TO when it occurred to me that another visit is drawing to a close, and that I won’t be back for another year. Unless there is another funeral and I fear that is possible. Granddad seems so lost.
It would be nice to be here “just for a visit” but it is so damn expensive to fly here. Cripes, it is cheaper to fly to the UK than to fly to Newfoundland. That burns me. We should be able to fly within our own country more cheaply than to travel out of it. I remember one Christmas my husband and I tried to book flights home- it was going to cost us $2500! Man, I couldn’t sell a kidney for that price. So no, the odd flick home just for a visit is as rare as an honest car salesman. No, most often we are going to a funeral or a wedding.
Thankfully, there are some weddings on the horizon- and I know they are important to my Granddad. He is looking forward to them; he is keeping on for them. My cousin Stephanie is getting married August in PEI. Stephanie with her beautiful curly brown hair, I used to covet those soft ringlets as a child. Little Stephanie I remember as a pretty little thing, is now a beautiful young woman. We were talking at the funeral about how we spent hours making tissue paper flowers for Aunt Catherine’s wedding.
And Kimmie! Another stunningly beautiful cousin (Ahem, it seems everyone in my family is blessed with good looks, I am not sure how that particular gene sequence skipped me but it did) She is doing the deed in October. She is in the final stages of planning now and when we spoke last week her eyes were bright with excitement. Kim’s sister Nicole is expecting a baby in the fall and I know Granddad will want to see the little one. When I visit with Granddad now I always work these events into our conversation and I can see him brighten, come alive again. And when he holds his great grandson Wilson, his smile and laugh illuminates all, and suddenly that dull ache seems to ease a little.
Life finds a way of keeping you going, even when you just don’t seem to have it in you. We do have to say goodbye, and it does hurt. But we also get to say: “Congratulations to the Bride and Groom!” and “Welcome little one!”
Yes, life finds a way and for that I am grateful. Good Luck Stephanie, Kim, and Nicole. Love you all.
I thought I was done blogging about this, I logged in with another topic pretty well flushed out, but I couldn’t stick with it. This is the direction that I still seem to be pulled in. I was looking at our itinerary for our return trip back to TO when it occurred to me that another visit is drawing to a close, and that I won’t be back for another year. Unless there is another funeral and I fear that is possible. Granddad seems so lost.
It would be nice to be here “just for a visit” but it is so damn expensive to fly here. Cripes, it is cheaper to fly to the UK than to fly to Newfoundland. That burns me. We should be able to fly within our own country more cheaply than to travel out of it. I remember one Christmas my husband and I tried to book flights home- it was going to cost us $2500! Man, I couldn’t sell a kidney for that price. So no, the odd flick home just for a visit is as rare as an honest car salesman. No, most often we are going to a funeral or a wedding.
Thankfully, there are some weddings on the horizon- and I know they are important to my Granddad. He is looking forward to them; he is keeping on for them. My cousin Stephanie is getting married August in PEI. Stephanie with her beautiful curly brown hair, I used to covet those soft ringlets as a child. Little Stephanie I remember as a pretty little thing, is now a beautiful young woman. We were talking at the funeral about how we spent hours making tissue paper flowers for Aunt Catherine’s wedding.
And Kimmie! Another stunningly beautiful cousin (Ahem, it seems everyone in my family is blessed with good looks, I am not sure how that particular gene sequence skipped me but it did) She is doing the deed in October. She is in the final stages of planning now and when we spoke last week her eyes were bright with excitement. Kim’s sister Nicole is expecting a baby in the fall and I know Granddad will want to see the little one. When I visit with Granddad now I always work these events into our conversation and I can see him brighten, come alive again. And when he holds his great grandson Wilson, his smile and laugh illuminates all, and suddenly that dull ache seems to ease a little.
Life finds a way of keeping you going, even when you just don’t seem to have it in you. We do have to say goodbye, and it does hurt. But we also get to say: “Congratulations to the Bride and Groom!” and “Welcome little one!”
Yes, life finds a way and for that I am grateful. Good Luck Stephanie, Kim, and Nicole. Love you all.
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Good-Bye Grammy
In my Grandma’s House
In my Grandma’s house
is a book bound in black
paper clippings live between yellowed pages
an outline of lives lived; marriages made
babies born and passings.
In my Grandma’s house
pictures of children now grown
visual chronicle of decades past
a timeline of connections; families made
grandchildren born and loved.
In my Grandma’s house
the smell of baking bread
jam-jams, pancakes and baked beans.
A line of stitches and sweaters made
knitted mitts and warmth.
In my Grandma’s house
a window opens to the apple tree
while fragrant blossoms scent the breeze
the skyline of Birch reach upward, prayers made;
taken by the wind and answered.
In my Grandma’s house
a book bound in black
paper clippings lie between aging pages
outlines lives she loved, memories made
and now it marks her passing.
Clara Margaret Browne March 10th 1929- July 9th 2007
I love you Grammy
In my Grandma’s house
is a book bound in black
paper clippings live between yellowed pages
an outline of lives lived; marriages made
babies born and passings.
In my Grandma’s house
pictures of children now grown
visual chronicle of decades past
a timeline of connections; families made
grandchildren born and loved.
In my Grandma’s house
the smell of baking bread
jam-jams, pancakes and baked beans.
A line of stitches and sweaters made
knitted mitts and warmth.
In my Grandma’s house
a window opens to the apple tree
while fragrant blossoms scent the breeze
the skyline of Birch reach upward, prayers made;
taken by the wind and answered.
In my Grandma’s house
a book bound in black
paper clippings lie between aging pages
outlines lives she loved, memories made
and now it marks her passing.
Clara Margaret Browne March 10th 1929- July 9th 2007
I love you Grammy
Monday, July 9, 2007
Crowds line highway for fallen soldiers
You know, just when I think this province has nothing redeeming about it, something happens and I find myself stepping back and re-evaluating things, and perhaps cutting the Big Smoke a little slack.
Yesterday, overpasses along Hwy. 401 were again lined with a sea of red and white as hundreds of people gathered to honour the six soldiers killed in Afghanistan last week. They held Canadian Flags aloft, and draped them over the side of the overpass; they saluted, clapped and cheered the six hearses as they broke into view; a moving ribbon of black on the horizon.
This group of individuals was composed of Toronto paramedics, police, parents of soldiers overseas, and dozens of average citizens who thought it was important to take time out to thank and honour those who served their community abroad with their sacrifice.
To date, 66 Canadians and one diplomat have been killed in Afghanistan since 2002. Each time they come back, Canadians see the same sad rituals of the repatriation ceremony: stoic presence of politicians, the soldiers carrying caskets and trying to keep their emotions in check, family members who cling to each other as they watch each coffin unloaded and brought to the hearse, the salutes, and the tears. The lament for the young, brave, men and women whose lives were extinguished under stars they do not recognize.
At least we see it, and remember the cost of this mission. In the US, the government prohibits photographs of the coffins of U.S. troops returning home. They have the cost of the war in Afghanistan and Iraq counted down to the cent, but the human cost is taboo. While many Americans are appalled by this policy, it seems that coverage of Paris Hilton’s time in jail gets more media attention.
I have a friend from Newfoundland, Jeff Hogg, who has been to Afghanistan. He is among the lucky ones who have returned. Scarred, forever changed, but alive. He and his wife both know if the mission continues they will be sent back. It makes me ill to think that one day I could be joining those people on the overpass, saying goodbye to a childhood friend, but I am grateful too. Grateful that we have such selfless people in this country, people who continually serve, people who leave their lives; their loves to keep us out of harms way. I am grateful that I live in a province that can take time out of their busy lives to give a moment of thanks for their sacrifice. Grateful that I live in a nation that does not shirk away from the most devastating cost of war: the horrible price paid for peace and security.
Yesterday, overpasses along Hwy. 401 were again lined with a sea of red and white as hundreds of people gathered to honour the six soldiers killed in Afghanistan last week. They held Canadian Flags aloft, and draped them over the side of the overpass; they saluted, clapped and cheered the six hearses as they broke into view; a moving ribbon of black on the horizon.
This group of individuals was composed of Toronto paramedics, police, parents of soldiers overseas, and dozens of average citizens who thought it was important to take time out to thank and honour those who served their community abroad with their sacrifice.
To date, 66 Canadians and one diplomat have been killed in Afghanistan since 2002. Each time they come back, Canadians see the same sad rituals of the repatriation ceremony: stoic presence of politicians, the soldiers carrying caskets and trying to keep their emotions in check, family members who cling to each other as they watch each coffin unloaded and brought to the hearse, the salutes, and the tears. The lament for the young, brave, men and women whose lives were extinguished under stars they do not recognize.
At least we see it, and remember the cost of this mission. In the US, the government prohibits photographs of the coffins of U.S. troops returning home. They have the cost of the war in Afghanistan and Iraq counted down to the cent, but the human cost is taboo. While many Americans are appalled by this policy, it seems that coverage of Paris Hilton’s time in jail gets more media attention.
I have a friend from Newfoundland, Jeff Hogg, who has been to Afghanistan. He is among the lucky ones who have returned. Scarred, forever changed, but alive. He and his wife both know if the mission continues they will be sent back. It makes me ill to think that one day I could be joining those people on the overpass, saying goodbye to a childhood friend, but I am grateful too. Grateful that we have such selfless people in this country, people who continually serve, people who leave their lives; their loves to keep us out of harms way. I am grateful that I live in a province that can take time out of their busy lives to give a moment of thanks for their sacrifice. Grateful that I live in a nation that does not shirk away from the most devastating cost of war: the horrible price paid for peace and security.
Saturday, July 7, 2007
A Castle in the Heart of the City.
As much as I hate Toronto, it is one of the larger outposts of Newfoundland’s Empire and deserves some respect. When we first moved to Ontario we lived in SkyPro apartments on the corner of Bloor and Jarivs. That was a bit of an experience. It is just a little ways up from Cabbage Town which is actually a really pretty spot, however, in the area between there and SkyPro things got a little dicey. At night the “gangstas” from Sherborne St., the hookers, the trannies, the homeless, and the homeless trannies all came out to play (they mostly come out at night…mostly). And the noise! The incessant thrum of traffic as millions of cars made their way to the DVP, the constant barrage of sirens, the yelling, the screech of tires, the thunder of crashes, the pulse and hum of a mass of humanity below.
I was on the phone home quite a bit in those days. My own digital umbilical cord. I remember a day when it was uncharacteristically quiet; things seemed sort of still. It made me think of home and so I called mom. We had been talking only for a few minutes when she and asked: “Where are you?” “I am at the apartment” I replied. To which she answered. "How come I don’t hear any sirens?”
Ah TO! The Big Smoke. It is a great place to visit, but I don’t want to live there. We started looking to move out of the city, and eventually we found a spot we could afford (barely) in Durham. And this is where we now live. However some of our closest friends still live in the city, and we visit them when we can.
Last weekend Julie and Karl invited us to go to a Renaissance Fair held at Casa Loma. Julie and Karl married there a few years ago (it was a magical wedding by the way, she was a beautiful bride, and the groom wasn’t half bad either).
We took the subway to Dupont and made our way up the sidewalk. You can see the edge of the gardens surrounding the castle as you approach, a long stone stairwell spirals its way up the grounds beckoning you in. We went around the long way because we had the little monster with us, and we did not want to hork him all the w
ay up there in his carriage.
It is an impressive thing to see this Castle emerge out of the grey and bleak of a busy city. It is odd too, to step off a subway, walk off a busy street and step back in time. That sense of time out of place was enhanced by the Renaissance Fair. Lords and Ladies strolled in the gardens. There was Merlin’s Ale (yum!) and Raspberry Mead (gah!) to drink. A falconer showed off his bird…er his falcon. There were shows to catch (I recommend “Men in Tights”), codpieces to stare at and wares to buy. In addition to that you could explore the massive Casa Loma, and its beautiful gardens. The castle is a jewel in the middle of the city.
An expensive jewel at that. Sir Henry Mill Pellatt bankrupted himself creating this marvel and it is the Kiwanis who take care of it now. If you ever find yourself in the Big City check out Casa Loma, they have a variety of events during the year, and movies are filmed (Parts of X-men and Chicago were shot there), heck you can be married at the Castle if you want! But whatever you decide don’t drink the Raspberry Mead! My taste buds haven’t grown back yet, but the hole in my cheek is filling in nicely.
*Thanks Julie for the pictures!
Thursday, July 5, 2007
Newfoundland English- Oxymoron?
One of the things I am often told when people first figure out I am from Newfoundland, is that I don't have much of an accent. Ha! Like there is one, I often reply.
Newfoundland and Labrador English is often regarded as the most distinctive dialect of English in Canada. The kind most people often associate with Newfoundland is the accent you are subjected too by tired comedians, and Nissan X-Trail commercials . But the accent varies across the Rock (Newfoundland for the uninitiated), and The Big Land (Labrador).
Some Newfoundland dialects are similar to what one might hear in Ireland or parts of England (or a bizarre combination of both). Which makes sense as many came from these ports of call to fish and later settle the island. But we were also settled by the French; mostly on the Port or Port Peninsula on the west coast. The Basque, the Spanish, and the Scottish also threw their nets in the water, and they too contributed to the vast Newfoundland lexicon and accents.
I remember as a young kid going to Stephenville to visit family. There, I heard an accent I had never heard before, and haven't heard the like of since. It sort of sounds like an English-French hybrid with a little MicMac Indian thrown in just for shits and giggles...er...just for kicks I mean.
People from this area with French and Micmac blood are sometimes referred to as jackie tars- not the nicest handle but there it is.
But it is the Irish /English combo that most people think of when they describe the "Newfie accent". This is what Jim Carrey was going for in his movie "A Series of Unfortunate Events". Mainlanders are famous for trying to use this accent (badly) when they find themselves in the company of a Newfoundland native and to make matters worse, Mainlanders will often use commonly known Newfoundland phrases while doing so. I blame Great Big Sea for a lot of it, if only because their hit song Whadd'ya at? (loosely translated: "How's it going?" or "What are you doing?") started a particularly dark time for me. I can't listen to that song now without wanting to pop someone in the nose. Dear God, every time I was introduced to someone new, the conversation would be the friggin' same:
"Hey Bob, I would like you to meet Nadine:"
"Hi there"
"She is from Newfoundland"
"Ahhh! " Big smiles "Whadd'ya at?"
It is at that point I usually look at them like they are a dog's deposit on my shoe and reply politely: "Sorry, I didn't catch that?"
I can be a bit of a bitch sometimes.
It is not that I am not proud of being a Newfoundlander or that I don't love the accents. I just hate the way it is used by others to make us feel like quaint little curiosities. Those poor uneducated country bumpkins who live on the land God gave to Cain. They proclaim us "the friendliest people in the world", and in the same breath "Not too bright though". Our funny little accents are often regarded as a backward corruption of "proper" English and encourages a perception by some people that we are somehow inferior. How ignorant.
We have a complex history that contributed to the way we developed our wonderful variety of dialects, our colorful lexicon and our quick jargon. We should be proud that we have something so unique and special. I am hoping we never lose it completely.
The people who created the Newfoundland Dictionary have made a great contribution to the preservation of this part of our heritage. For those of you who are interested, there is an online completion of a few of the words and phrases unique to Newfoundland and Labrador.
http://www.heritage.nf.ca/dictionary/d1ction.html
Until then me duckies, have a good one, eh?
Newfoundland and Labrador English is often regarded as the most distinctive dialect of English in Canada. The kind most people often associate with Newfoundland is the accent you are subjected too by tired comedians, and Nissan X-Trail commercials . But the accent varies across the Rock (Newfoundland for the uninitiated), and The Big Land (Labrador).
Some Newfoundland dialects are similar to what one might hear in Ireland or parts of England (or a bizarre combination of both). Which makes sense as many came from these ports of call to fish and later settle the island. But we were also settled by the French; mostly on the Port or Port Peninsula on the west coast. The Basque, the Spanish, and the Scottish also threw their nets in the water, and they too contributed to the vast Newfoundland lexicon and accents.
I remember as a young kid going to Stephenville to visit family. There, I heard an accent I had never heard before, and haven't heard the like of since. It sort of sounds like an English-French hybrid with a little MicMac Indian thrown in just for shits and giggles...er...just for kicks I mean.
People from this area with French and Micmac blood are sometimes referred to as jackie tars- not the nicest handle but there it is.
But it is the Irish /English combo that most people think of when they describe the "Newfie accent". This is what Jim Carrey was going for in his movie "A Series of Unfortunate Events". Mainlanders are famous for trying to use this accent (badly) when they find themselves in the company of a Newfoundland native and to make matters worse, Mainlanders will often use commonly known Newfoundland phrases while doing so. I blame Great Big Sea for a lot of it, if only because their hit song Whadd'ya at? (loosely translated: "How's it going?" or "What are you doing?") started a particularly dark time for me. I can't listen to that song now without wanting to pop someone in the nose. Dear God, every time I was introduced to someone new, the conversation would be the friggin' same:
"Hey Bob, I would like you to meet Nadine:"
"Hi there"
"She is from Newfoundland"
"Ahhh! " Big smiles "Whadd'ya at?"
It is at that point I usually look at them like they are a dog's deposit on my shoe and reply politely: "Sorry, I didn't catch that?"
I can be a bit of a bitch sometimes.
It is not that I am not proud of being a Newfoundlander or that I don't love the accents. I just hate the way it is used by others to make us feel like quaint little curiosities. Those poor uneducated country bumpkins who live on the land God gave to Cain. They proclaim us "the friendliest people in the world", and in the same breath "Not too bright though". Our funny little accents are often regarded as a backward corruption of "proper" English and encourages a perception by some people that we are somehow inferior. How ignorant.
We have a complex history that contributed to the way we developed our wonderful variety of dialects, our colorful lexicon and our quick jargon. We should be proud that we have something so unique and special. I am hoping we never lose it completely.
The people who created the Newfoundland Dictionary have made a great contribution to the preservation of this part of our heritage. For those of you who are interested, there is an online completion of a few of the words and phrases unique to Newfoundland and Labrador.
http://www.heritage.nf.ca/dictionary/d1ction.html
Until then me duckies, have a good one, eh?
Sunday, July 1, 2007
Happy Canada Day!
When we lived in Korea, my husband and I were asked a lot of questions about Canada, on topics ranging from the silly: "Does everyone have blond hair and blue eyes?" or "Does it always snow?" to the more political "Do you like the United States?" And sometimes we came across a Korean whose English was quite strong, and whose sense of the world was stronger, and we would get the digger: "How is Canada different from the United States?"
Oh man that was tough to answer, mostly because what makes us different
is so hard to define. People have joked about the Canadian verses American identity for years. Some people are adamant there is no difference. American journalist Richard Starnes quipped, "Canadians are generally indistinguishable from the Americans, and the surest way of telling the two apart is to make the observation to a Canadian." The definition of a Canadian offered by The Econmist in 1993 is: "an American
with healthcare and no guns".
We have the stereotypes to consider as well: the beer drinking, toque wearing, polite, lumberjacks, living in an Igloo in the middle of nowhere Canadians 'eh. And do we ever rage against those! Rick Mercer, Newfoundland's native son leads the charge of that peculiar war with his show Talking To Americans. Rick pretends to be a journalist in American cities asking passers-by for their opinions on factitious Canadian news stories. I think I almost laughed myself into hospital the night I watched him ask a Harvard professor to offer his congratulations to Canada for going with a 24 hr. day. Dear God, my sides ache just thinking about it.
I can't really laugh too hard, the stereotype game is played on both sides of the border- and it can get nasty. Our version of the United States is quite often as ignorant as the fodder offered to us. And you know, it really doesn't help us to define who we are by who we are not. Though Mike Myers wouldn't agree with me. Of his home and native land Mike said: "Canada is the essence of not being. Not English, not American, it is the mathematic of not being. And a subtle flavour - we're more like celery as a flavour." Come on Mike, we are a little more flavourful then celery!
So how should we define ourselves? I have my own sense of Canadianess that I developed in large part while I was in Korea. And it is personal to me. It is bitter and sweet, it is rooted in a strong sense of national pride, tempered with that oh so Canadian polite modesty. Ahem. But who am I to say?
I came across this today: http://surveys.canada.travel/ca/en_ca/index.php and suddenly my Nasolacrimal ducts were leaking (not a lot, but enough). I think this sums us up quite beautifully. When you go to the site you will notice there are three options: you can listen to the whole thing, or read it, or you can watch a portion of it. If you would like my suggestion, I say listen while reading it and then watch it. Either way my friends, enjoy. And if you have a minute, tell me what being Canadian means to you.
Oh man that was tough to answer, mostly because what makes us different
is so hard to define. People have joked about the Canadian verses American identity for years. Some people are adamant there is no difference. American journalist Richard Starnes quipped, "Canadians are generally indistinguishable from the Americans, and the surest way of telling the two apart is to make the observation to a Canadian." The definition of a Canadian offered by The Econmist in 1993 is: "an American
with healthcare and no guns".
We have the stereotypes to consider as well: the beer drinking, toque wearing, polite, lumberjacks, living in an Igloo in the middle of nowhere Canadians 'eh. And do we ever rage against those! Rick Mercer, Newfoundland's native son leads the charge of that peculiar war with his show Talking To Americans. Rick pretends to be a journalist in American cities asking passers-by for their opinions on factitious Canadian news stories. I think I almost laughed myself into hospital the night I watched him ask a Harvard professor to offer his congratulations to Canada for going with a 24 hr. day. Dear God, my sides ache just thinking about it.
I can't really laugh too hard, the stereotype game is played on both sides of the border- and it can get nasty. Our version of the United States is quite often as ignorant as the fodder offered to us. And you know, it really doesn't help us to define who we are by who we are not. Though Mike Myers wouldn't agree with me. Of his home and native land Mike said: "Canada is the essence of not being. Not English, not American, it is the mathematic of not being. And a subtle flavour - we're more like celery as a flavour." Come on Mike, we are a little more flavourful then celery!
So how should we define ourselves? I have my own sense of Canadianess that I developed in large part while I was in Korea. And it is personal to me. It is bitter and sweet, it is rooted in a strong sense of national pride, tempered with that oh so Canadian polite modesty. Ahem. But who am I to say?
I came across this today: http://surveys.canada.travel/ca/en_ca/index.php and suddenly my Nasolacrimal ducts were leaking (not a lot, but enough). I think this sums us up quite beautifully. When you go to the site you will notice there are three options: you can listen to the whole thing, or read it, or you can watch a portion of it. If you would like my suggestion, I say listen while reading it and then watch it. Either way my friends, enjoy. And if you have a minute, tell me what being Canadian means to you.
Happy Canada Day!
Friday, June 29, 2007
New Feature: "I would like to recommend:"
Ever since I started this whole blogging thing, I have started to pay attention to other blogs. What are they doing? How often do they post? What do they talk about? And I have to tell ya, there is a lot of stuff out there. Some of it really interesting, some of it...well not so much.
I came across a blog recently that I believe is really worth your time. It is called Don to Earth, and it inspired a new feature I will be adding to my blog called: "I would like to recommend". Catchy phrase that. Sigh. I never said I was a member of the Literati folks.
Henceforth, I will on occasion blog about something that has caught my fancy. It could be a film, a book, a restaurant or as happens to be the case today, a blog.
Donald Crowdis, born in Halifax, Nova Scotia, on December 24, 1913 is one of the last living survivors of the Halifax Explosion. He was the first host of the popular CBC Television series The Nature of Things and he was Curator, then Director, of the Nova Scotia Museum. After World War II, Crowdis spearheaded an effort which led to the construction of the Halifax Memorial Library. Don was also a member of the executive team that oversaw the establishment of the Ontario Science Centre.
Now in his 90s, one of the worlds oldest bloggers is watching his wife fade away in a nursing home and reflecting back on his life and looking at what lies before him. Don is taking time to share his life and observations with anyone who is willing to read them. He hasn't updated in awhile, but the material he has posted is beautiful, sometimes sad and often poetic.
I recommend : dontoearth.blogspot.com
I came across a blog recently that I believe is really worth your time. It is called Don to Earth, and it inspired a new feature I will be adding to my blog called: "I would like to recommend". Catchy phrase that. Sigh. I never said I was a member of the Literati folks.
Henceforth, I will on occasion blog about something that has caught my fancy. It could be a film, a book, a restaurant or as happens to be the case today, a blog.
Donald Crowdis, born in Halifax, Nova Scotia, on December 24, 1913 is one of the last living survivors of the Halifax Explosion. He was the first host of the popular CBC Television series The Nature of Things and he was Curator, then Director, of the Nova Scotia Museum. After World War II, Crowdis spearheaded an effort which led to the construction of the Halifax Memorial Library. Don was also a member of the executive team that oversaw the establishment of the Ontario Science Centre.
Now in his 90s, one of the worlds oldest bloggers is watching his wife fade away in a nursing home and reflecting back on his life and looking at what lies before him. Don is taking time to share his life and observations with anyone who is willing to read them. He hasn't updated in awhile, but the material he has posted is beautiful, sometimes sad and often poetic.
I recommend : dontoearth.blogspot.com
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
If failure is not an option- success is not an achievement.
It is year end for schools, and the push is on for teachers to get all the exams marked and entered in to the reporting system. I missed my friends at work this year, I missed some students, and I missed my paycheck, but I definitely did not miss this.
This is the end game, where you have to put forth all your proof that you did your work this year, and that those three kids you failed (never mind the 5 others you pushed through with a 50) really should not get the credit. And why are so many failing, or so close to failing? Well it is more then just a case of are not putting in the required effort, and no, you can’t always blame the teacher. The real answer is that these kids know they will be pushed through. Why should they struggle with an assignment? Why should they actually study at night? Why should they do their homework? Why should they get extra help? They would be crazy to if they knew there was an easier way. And they do. Believe me they do. They tell me so- and they laugh about it.
I will never understand how an average student can fail a class in our current educational system. There is a ton of remedial help available through Student Services, including peer tutoring programs, after school sessions, make-up assignments and endless second chances given throughout the year to hand in missing or late work. Then there are all the warnings given to the student and the parents: credit endangerment reports, phone calls home, tests sent home to be signed, and mid term reports (We won't get into a discussion now about how a parent might want to check in now and then on their own- you know, at least act the part of a concerned parent. We can't go there because my head might burst into flames and pop off my head). In my opinion, if a student fails to take advantage of all the aforementioned, and cannot show up for class on a consistent basis, prepared and ready to work, than they do not deserve the credit. Ah, but many of these wankers will get the credit anyway. Thanks to the “Failure is not an option approach” to education thrust upon teachers by a government concerned more with public perception then education.
A friend of mine, also a teacher, was discussing this on the weekend. She was teaching when the Literacy Test (Raising the standards for our kids –remember that catchy slogan?) first came out. Back then it was a two day affair, a very comprehensive test. If you did not pass this test (and you had two chances to write it) you did not graduate. Oooh tough love. The first year practically everyone failed. So that year became the “test year”. The next year the test was scaled back a bit- but the failure rate was still too high. So they scaled it back to a single day the following year. Again- too many students were failing. So now the “Literacy Test” is just a half a day long. And the kids don’t even sweat it anymore. Why is that you ask? Well if you don’t pass it after two tries now, you simply take the literacy course- you get your 50% and you are in the clear!
What was that about raising standards again? Yeah right. The only thing that changed was the expectations: the Ministry lowered them until they got the desired result. Enter government, school boards and administrators who will rave about how all that extra attention and hard work is paying off. Just look at how many kids are getting their high school diploma now!
But I wonder the worth of that diploma. After all, what have kids learned?
And what happens when these kids get out into the work force, with a poor work ethic and an inability to demonstrate the most basic skills? Who will get the blame for that?
Why the teachers of course.
This is the end game, where you have to put forth all your proof that you did your work this year, and that those three kids you failed (never mind the 5 others you pushed through with a 50) really should not get the credit. And why are so many failing, or so close to failing? Well it is more then just a case of are not putting in the required effort, and no, you can’t always blame the teacher. The real answer is that these kids know they will be pushed through. Why should they struggle with an assignment? Why should they actually study at night? Why should they do their homework? Why should they get extra help? They would be crazy to if they knew there was an easier way. And they do. Believe me they do. They tell me so- and they laugh about it.
I will never understand how an average student can fail a class in our current educational system. There is a ton of remedial help available through Student Services, including peer tutoring programs, after school sessions, make-up assignments and endless second chances given throughout the year to hand in missing or late work. Then there are all the warnings given to the student and the parents: credit endangerment reports, phone calls home, tests sent home to be signed, and mid term reports (We won't get into a discussion now about how a parent might want to check in now and then on their own- you know, at least act the part of a concerned parent. We can't go there because my head might burst into flames and pop off my head). In my opinion, if a student fails to take advantage of all the aforementioned, and cannot show up for class on a consistent basis, prepared and ready to work, than they do not deserve the credit. Ah, but many of these wankers will get the credit anyway. Thanks to the “Failure is not an option approach” to education thrust upon teachers by a government concerned more with public perception then education.
A friend of mine, also a teacher, was discussing this on the weekend. She was teaching when the Literacy Test (Raising the standards for our kids –remember that catchy slogan?) first came out. Back then it was a two day affair, a very comprehensive test. If you did not pass this test (and you had two chances to write it) you did not graduate. Oooh tough love. The first year practically everyone failed. So that year became the “test year”. The next year the test was scaled back a bit- but the failure rate was still too high. So they scaled it back to a single day the following year. Again- too many students were failing. So now the “Literacy Test” is just a half a day long. And the kids don’t even sweat it anymore. Why is that you ask? Well if you don’t pass it after two tries now, you simply take the literacy course- you get your 50% and you are in the clear!
What was that about raising standards again? Yeah right. The only thing that changed was the expectations: the Ministry lowered them until they got the desired result. Enter government, school boards and administrators who will rave about how all that extra attention and hard work is paying off. Just look at how many kids are getting their high school diploma now!
But I wonder the worth of that diploma. After all, what have kids learned?
And what happens when these kids get out into the work force, with a poor work ethic and an inability to demonstrate the most basic skills? Who will get the blame for that?
Why the teachers of course.
Monday, June 25, 2007
How do you define home?
I have made some friends since I moved here, really good people. Mostly I met them through work. These are good people. They make me laugh. They are the kind of people who call you just to say hey. People who will notice your absence, so that should something happen to you the CSIs won’t need to follow the flies to find your location. People that make a life far away from family bearable. Easier.
It is summer time and all my friends are getting ready for their exotic trips. The kind Don and I can never afford: in time (he doesn’t get a lot of time off) or money (don’t get me started on that!). Some are going to Vegas, others to Australia, others to the UK. Don and I will be going home.
When we are asked the question: Going anywhere the summer? Our answer is always home. And that answer confuses some: “You don’t want to go somewhere more exciting? Warm? A cruise?” and it also pisses some people off: “Home, what do you mean home? You have lived here since 1999! Why do you still call Newfoundland home?”
Why indeed.
I guess the answer lies in your definition of home.
For me, home is many things. My husband and son are the center of my sense of home to be sure- and wherever they are so is my home. But there is something more to my understanding of the word: something that has a very esoteric connection to the Island itself.
Home is the place where I can be myself. Where I am surrounded by family. Birch and Evergreens. Blue Spruce. My Poppy’s apple tree. It is time spent swimming in the Falls. Friends from high school. Memories. My room. My Grandparents’s laughter and homemade wine. Dad’s BBQ. The smell of Grandma’s house. The silence. Rock and bramble. The dark, dark nights, where the stars shine out in familiar bright patterns, constellations that mark my place in the universe.
It is summer time and all my friends are getting ready for their exotic trips. The kind Don and I can never afford: in time (he doesn’t get a lot of time off) or money (don’t get me started on that!). Some are going to Vegas, others to Australia, others to the UK. Don and I will be going home.
When we are asked the question: Going anywhere the summer? Our answer is always home. And that answer confuses some: “You don’t want to go somewhere more exciting? Warm? A cruise?” and it also pisses some people off: “Home, what do you mean home? You have lived here since 1999! Why do you still call Newfoundland home?”
Why indeed.
I guess the answer lies in your definition of home.
For me, home is many things. My husband and son are the center of my sense of home to be sure- and wherever they are so is my home. But there is something more to my understanding of the word: something that has a very esoteric connection to the Island itself.
Home is the place where I can be myself. Where I am surrounded by family. Birch and Evergreens. Blue Spruce. My Poppy’s apple tree. It is time spent swimming in the Falls. Friends from high school. Memories. My room. My Grandparents’s laughter and homemade wine. Dad’s BBQ. The smell of Grandma’s house. The silence. Rock and bramble. The dark, dark nights, where the stars shine out in familiar bright patterns, constellations that mark my place in the universe.
Friday, June 22, 2007
What in the name of all that is holy am I going to make for supper?
The daily dilemma.
You think I would be used to this by now, but I am not.
I have been trying to come up with easy, tasty and healthy (read low sugar and fat) versions of the foods we like. I may as well be looking to create fission in a test tube. Tasty and low fat rarely coincide.
When summer comes it is usually a little easier to do this. BBQ a few chicken tits, throw a salad in a bowl and voila, your done. Except there are two problems this summer:
- if I eat one more piece of chicken I am going to start sprouting feathers.
- our BBQ is toasted. It is rusting out. The propane tank doesn't seem to shut properly, and it is held to the BBQ unit by a thick piece of twine and a prayer. And last night, it ran out of propane.
We will decide this weekend if we can simply get a new tank this year, and get the new BBQ the next (when I am off mat leave and making money again- not this insult euphemistically called Maternity Leave Benefits), or if the whole damn unit has to be laid to rest. Sent to that great Outdoor Picnic in the Sky.
In the meantime, I still have to come up with something to eat. Got any suggestions? Can we come to your house? What are you having? Hey, what have you got there?...oooh that looks gooood....
You think I would be used to this by now, but I am not.
I have been trying to come up with easy, tasty and healthy (read low sugar and fat) versions of the foods we like. I may as well be looking to create fission in a test tube. Tasty and low fat rarely coincide.
When summer comes it is usually a little easier to do this. BBQ a few chicken tits, throw a salad in a bowl and voila, your done. Except there are two problems this summer:
- if I eat one more piece of chicken I am going to start sprouting feathers.
- our BBQ is toasted. It is rusting out. The propane tank doesn't seem to shut properly, and it is held to the BBQ unit by a thick piece of twine and a prayer. And last night, it ran out of propane.
We will decide this weekend if we can simply get a new tank this year, and get the new BBQ the next (when I am off mat leave and making money again- not this insult euphemistically called Maternity Leave Benefits), or if the whole damn unit has to be laid to rest. Sent to that great Outdoor Picnic in the Sky.
In the meantime, I still have to come up with something to eat. Got any suggestions? Can we come to your house? What are you having? Hey, what have you got there?...oooh that looks gooood....
Wednesday, June 20, 2007
I would like to proclaim today "National Give Me Money Day".
I have a board on Delphi that I have hosted for years now, they are a great crew of people who I have come to love dearly. Peripheral to my board, there are other boards I frequent. One of them today had an interesting post.
It was a listing that outlined all the special days in June. Cripes, there is a day there for everyone. Apparently every month someone posts a listing of that month’s syllabus of “special days” everything from National Pink Day, Festival Of Popular Delusions Day (Jaysus!) to National Potato day. Riiiiiiiight.
When did we start having a special day for everything?
If any of you have participated in any of the following, please post a detailed comment describing the day. I cannot wait to hear all about it, and I have a psychiatrist for you on speed dial.
And now the month of June:
June 1 is Dare Day, June 2 is National Rocky Road Day, June 3 is Repeat Day, June 4 is Old Maid's Day, June 5 is Festival Of Popular Delusions Day, June 6 is National Applesauce Cake Day, June 7 is National Chocolate Ice Cream Day, June 8 is Name Your Poison Day, June 9 is Donald Duck Day, June 10 is National Yo-Yo Day, June 11 is National Hug Holiday and King Kamehameha Day , June 12 is Machine Day, June 13 is National Juggling Day, and Kitchen Klutzes Of America Day, June 14 is Pop Goes The Weasel Day, June 15 is Smile Power Day, June 16 is National Hollerin' Contest Day, June 17 is Watergate Day and Eat Your Vegetables Day, June 18 is International Panic Day, June 19 is World Sauntering Day, June 20 is Ice Cream Soda Day , June 21 is Cuckoo Warning Day, More Info on Cuckoo Warning Day, June 22 is National Chocolate Eclair Day, June 23 is National Pink Day, June 24 is Museum Comes To Life Day, June 25 is Log Cabin Day, June 26 is National Chocolate Pudding Day, June 27 is National Columnists Day , June 28 is Paul Bunyan Day, June 29 is Camera Day, June 30 is Meteor Day...
Apparently we, as a society, have zero control over just how crazy we get.
It was a listing that outlined all the special days in June. Cripes, there is a day there for everyone. Apparently every month someone posts a listing of that month’s syllabus of “special days” everything from National Pink Day, Festival Of Popular Delusions Day (Jaysus!) to National Potato day. Riiiiiiiight.
When did we start having a special day for everything?
If any of you have participated in any of the following, please post a detailed comment describing the day. I cannot wait to hear all about it, and I have a psychiatrist for you on speed dial.
And now the month of June:
June 1 is Dare Day, June 2 is National Rocky Road Day, June 3 is Repeat Day, June 4 is Old Maid's Day, June 5 is Festival Of Popular Delusions Day, June 6 is National Applesauce Cake Day, June 7 is National Chocolate Ice Cream Day, June 8 is Name Your Poison Day, June 9 is Donald Duck Day, June 10 is National Yo-Yo Day, June 11 is National Hug Holiday and King Kamehameha Day , June 12 is Machine Day, June 13 is National Juggling Day, and Kitchen Klutzes Of America Day, June 14 is Pop Goes The Weasel Day, June 15 is Smile Power Day, June 16 is National Hollerin' Contest Day, June 17 is Watergate Day and Eat Your Vegetables Day, June 18 is International Panic Day, June 19 is World Sauntering Day, June 20 is Ice Cream Soda Day , June 21 is Cuckoo Warning Day, More Info on Cuckoo Warning Day, June 22 is National Chocolate Eclair Day, June 23 is National Pink Day, June 24 is Museum Comes To Life Day, June 25 is Log Cabin Day, June 26 is National Chocolate Pudding Day, June 27 is National Columnists Day , June 28 is Paul Bunyan Day, June 29 is Camera Day, June 30 is Meteor Day...
Apparently we, as a society, have zero control over just how crazy we get.
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Home Movies
I have been exploring this whole blog thing and I noticed that Bloggers can now upload video we have on Google or You tube, and I thought to myself- I must try this. Hey, there is laundry to be done, but that can wait. Newbie must play with the shiny buttons.
But do I have any video?
It turns out I have some- the cutsie kind. You know the ones you take of your children when they are babies and you still love them.
It got me thinking about all those scratchy home videos we see featured on your average Hollywood “Family Movie”. Remember Chevy Chase all dolled up in woolen hats, fur shawls and tacky broaches, trapped in his attic watching the reels? Did you actually know anyone who had this stuff? I don’t. My family certainly didn’t.
As a matter of fact there aren’t a lot of pictures of us kids past the cute baby stage…Aside from those horrid school photos. Come on, you know the ones. There is a windmill behind you buried in fall leaves, and you have your hands folded oh so naturally on something that can pass for a reasonable facsimile of a log. If you are lucky, you have all your teeth. Unlucky? Well you are missing at least two, there are a few poking out at unnatural angles and you’ve got braces with purple rubber bands. But in our house, even those pictures stop around grade five.
Of course I am not really blaming Mom and Dad for this. I am mostly to blame. When I see a camera I do my best to shrink out of existence. I am not Amish or anything, I just don’t like having my picture taken.
I am trying to get a little better with the whole photo thing ever since Wil was born. And so we have taken over 800 photos since his birth. That is about four times the amount of pictures we have taken since my husband and I started dating in 1991. So there is progress being made here people.
Anyhow back to the blog video of Wil, either learning how to kiss Mommy, or teething (and mommy’s chin is so much nicer on the gums than the nuby she bought him). Anyway, enjoy, and if you got them, dig out your own home videos and pictures. I promise you will smile.
But do I have any video?
It turns out I have some- the cutsie kind. You know the ones you take of your children when they are babies and you still love them.
It got me thinking about all those scratchy home videos we see featured on your average Hollywood “Family Movie”. Remember Chevy Chase all dolled up in woolen hats, fur shawls and tacky broaches, trapped in his attic watching the reels? Did you actually know anyone who had this stuff? I don’t. My family certainly didn’t.
As a matter of fact there aren’t a lot of pictures of us kids past the cute baby stage…Aside from those horrid school photos. Come on, you know the ones. There is a windmill behind you buried in fall leaves, and you have your hands folded oh so naturally on something that can pass for a reasonable facsimile of a log. If you are lucky, you have all your teeth. Unlucky? Well you are missing at least two, there are a few poking out at unnatural angles and you’ve got braces with purple rubber bands. But in our house, even those pictures stop around grade five.
Of course I am not really blaming Mom and Dad for this. I am mostly to blame. When I see a camera I do my best to shrink out of existence. I am not Amish or anything, I just don’t like having my picture taken.
I am trying to get a little better with the whole photo thing ever since Wil was born. And so we have taken over 800 photos since his birth. That is about four times the amount of pictures we have taken since my husband and I started dating in 1991. So there is progress being made here people.
Anyhow back to the blog video of Wil, either learning how to kiss Mommy, or teething (and mommy’s chin is so much nicer on the gums than the nuby she bought him). Anyway, enjoy, and if you got them, dig out your own home videos and pictures. I promise you will smile.
Monday, June 18, 2007
Missing The Rock
Well, I swore I would never do this. Yet here I am.
I never really got the point of this whole "Blog thing", who really wants the read the bland daily minutia of someone else’s every day life? Have I just added another daily chore to my ever expanding list? I don’t remember being given more hours in a day. So why am I here again?
Still not exactly sure.
I think part of me wants to just jump right in because I miss writing. I used to keep a journal, but I got out of that habit when I went to university. I just had too much other stuff to worry about. Then it was off to real life, and well that just beats the heck out of any creative bent you ever had to play with. But aside from the need to start playing with words again, there are other reasons for entering the blogosphere.
I am a Newfoundlander who is living away from the Rock, and I miss home very much. I miss the people, the clean air, the land and the water. I miss my family. It is an ache in my heart. Over the years that dull ache seems to have burned a hole there- a hole that has gotten bigger since my son was born.
It pains me to raise him here in the province that at times seems to lack a soul- a sense of self, of community, far away from friends and family. As he gets older, I won’t be able to simply let him outdoors to play- like I could when I was young. Too many freaks. Not enough green spaces anyway. No, he will be under constant surveillance, he won't be able to give me a kiss (Awww Mom!!) and just run to the park and play. Perhaps I will hook him up to some sort of GPS- ah! we can micro chip him like we did the cat! Bubble boy meets world.
It is hard to raise him alone too. My husband and I have only one family member nearby (Uncle Brendan and his brood) and while we lament the fact we are missing family, they are also missing out on their only great-grandchild, grandchild, and nephew: Wilson (or Iron Wil as we like to call him). They are missing all his firsts, his daily discoveries of the world around him, his smile.
It ain’t fair.
So I guess the other reason why I am here is to reach out and just make the connections I miss so much. Seems that the electronic method is the modus operandi of choice these days. And so I will give it a whirl.
I do not promise to write everyday, my aim for now is to write twice a week….and we will see how it goes from there shall we?
I never really got the point of this whole "Blog thing", who really wants the read the bland daily minutia of someone else’s every day life? Have I just added another daily chore to my ever expanding list? I don’t remember being given more hours in a day. So why am I here again?
Still not exactly sure.
I think part of me wants to just jump right in because I miss writing. I used to keep a journal, but I got out of that habit when I went to university. I just had too much other stuff to worry about. Then it was off to real life, and well that just beats the heck out of any creative bent you ever had to play with. But aside from the need to start playing with words again, there are other reasons for entering the blogosphere.
I am a Newfoundlander who is living away from the Rock, and I miss home very much. I miss the people, the clean air, the land and the water. I miss my family. It is an ache in my heart. Over the years that dull ache seems to have burned a hole there- a hole that has gotten bigger since my son was born.
It pains me to raise him here in the province that at times seems to lack a soul- a sense of self, of community, far away from friends and family. As he gets older, I won’t be able to simply let him outdoors to play- like I could when I was young. Too many freaks. Not enough green spaces anyway. No, he will be under constant surveillance, he won't be able to give me a kiss (Awww Mom!!) and just run to the park and play. Perhaps I will hook him up to some sort of GPS- ah! we can micro chip him like we did the cat! Bubble boy meets world.
It is hard to raise him alone too. My husband and I have only one family member nearby (Uncle Brendan and his brood) and while we lament the fact we are missing family, they are also missing out on their only great-grandchild, grandchild, and nephew: Wilson (or Iron Wil as we like to call him). They are missing all his firsts, his daily discoveries of the world around him, his smile.
It ain’t fair.
So I guess the other reason why I am here is to reach out and just make the connections I miss so much. Seems that the electronic method is the modus operandi of choice these days. And so I will give it a whirl.
I do not promise to write everyday, my aim for now is to write twice a week….and we will see how it goes from there shall we?
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